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I thoroughly enjoyed your speech and found many new, useful ideas to use immediately in my business... That's a great presentation. Thanks!
--Rose Clayton

I wanted to pass along my personal thanks to you for speaking at our annual Program Manager's conference. All of the feedback that I received, both in person, as well as in writing, was overwhelmingly positive, and your talk was a big part of that! Thanks again, and I hope that we'll see you at a future Harris event.
--Amos Morse

Thank you for the kind words. Your presentation was the best of all outside presentations - everyone thought you were great! I look forward to the opportunity to put you in front of other clients of ours in the future.
--Jay

Tony's presentation had real impact. The points he made were not only relevant to our audience, they were delivered in a way to make them memorable and fun. It was great to have such an important topic delivered with punch as well as humor. His anecdotes were fabulous. Ask him about the pots and pans.
--Corrine Smith

Thanks so much for your presentation at NSA San Diego last week. It was the best combination of practical tips and inspiration that I have seen at an NSA meeting ever! Thanks again for your powerful message and willingness to spend so much time with those of us starting out.
--Jim Cartmill

You tend to gravitate towards people who are just like you

DIRECTORS and SOCIALIZERS naturally gravitate toward other outgoing people in social situations. They send out instant signals by how loud and how fast they talk, how quick they are to give an opinion, sometimes even by the kind of clothes they wear.

The next time you are at a party, watch -- you can almost see them being drawn together as if they were metal chips pulled by some giant magnet. They quickly size one another up and mentally decide, "There's somebody I can relate to. There's somebody like me!"

That is also true of the more reserved individuals, RELATERS and THINKERS. An unspoken, unseen bond immediately connects them. They seem to be able to spot one another at 90 paces -- maybe it's their body language, or their voices, or silent messages they send with their eyes. But, for sure, there is an undeniable comfort zone that attracts the like-minded.

For both outgoing and reserved types, there is this natural compatibility among their own kind -- and conversely, an innate tension between dissimilar types. Importantly, though, this usually differs -- sometimes even radically --depending on whether the people are just together socially, or working on a task. Rapport in social situations is no guarantee of rapport on tasks.