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Happiness is a Way of Traveling, Not a Destination
advantage of being a pessimist is that all your surprises are pleasant. But
that's pretty small change compared to the big payoff that comes from projecting
Much of our happiness or unhappiness is caused, of course, not by what happens,
but how we look at what happens. In other words, by our thinking habits. And
habits can be changed.
George Walther, in his book Power Talking, shows how you can foster the mindset
that interprets setbacks as positive opportunities. He believes this is a skill
that you can develop - one word, one phrase, one sentence at a time.
For starters, purge the words "I failed ..." from your vocabulary, Walther
urges. Replace them with "I learned ..." to help your mind focus on the lessons
Similarly, you might want to get in the habit of using "challenge" when others
would say "problem," "I'll be glad to" instead of "I'll have to," and "I'm
getting better at ..." rather than "I'm no good at ..."
The subliminal effect of changing even a few words, Walther says, can prompt
your mind to come up with creative solutions rather than dreading or fleeing the